A little bummed out

[rns91294]

Hi. My husband and I leave for our cruise on Sunday the 9th. We are leaving a day early (the 8th) to visit our best friends and my college roomate who now live in Florida. They even decided to go on the cruise with us. A couple weeks ago she found out they were expecting their first child. Yesterday she was rushed in for emergance surgery due to a tublular pregnancy. I know I will still have a great time with my husband as it is a vacation, but I am really upset that this had to happen to such a wonderful loving couple. There was damage done and her good tube also has some problems and they may only be able to go invetro. I am excited about the cruise and sad at the same time. I really don't know how to feel. I know money doesn't matter to them right now, but they didn't get insurance and will lose all their money. I just wanted to share this sad story with all of you as when something happens like this so close to home, it really puts things in perspective. I just hope she will be able to go on and live a happy life. Thanks for listening.

 

[p.g.]

Oh my of course she can go on and live a happy life!! But this is something she will have to decide to do! Set backs happen in all our lives, and yes they can be painful and change how we look at outr future, but the point is THERE STILL IS A FUTURE.
I hope your friend heals quickly and goes on, it may be still possible for her to concieve even with one tube. If not there are ofptions , may-be not what she had planned but as we age we learn tht life is what you make it , and to roll with the punches. And there are certainly some punches along the way.
My best friend whom I had known since we were 4 was murdered at 26, weeks after I just asked to be the maid of honour at my wedding.
I personally have had 3 miscarriages( now have 3 kids)including a doozey where i was hospitalized for days.
My friends son died suddenly in his sleep at age SIX ( undiagnosed brain flaw)

So you see into every life a little rain must fall. Your friend is very lucky in one way, she has a friend like you who cares about her and worrys about her, that is priceless!
Your friend will recover both phsyically and menatlly, just give her time and let her cry, but remember the sun always comes out after the rainstorm, and there is always other good things in our lives to focus on, loving husband , work we enjoy, close friends and family. It will take a while, give it time, and keep being a great friend.

 

[mlzangel78]

I am so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I too have been there. Just remeber this, HAVE a great time on your cruise, your friend wouldnt want you to be sad, so heres what you have to do....

Have extra fun for her too, and she will be glad you had a good time.
I wish your friend all the support and the best of wishes for her and her husbands future

 

[BurBunny]

I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's troubles. While they didn't have trip insurance, the loss of the cruise fare pales in comparison.

Plus, I'd say they were extremely fortunate this happened on land. Not just for the additional costs at sea, but she knows she's receiving the best possible care in this emergency to retain her fertility. Hopefully this will just be a temporary setback for them in their family plans.

 

[rns91294]

Thank you all for listening. I know the cruise monehy they are loosing means absolutely nothing to them right now. It is just a shame. I know that her and her husband will do whatever it takes to have children as she used to want 10 and has now narrowed it down to 4. It is a shame that this sort of stuff happens to such nice people, but I guess this is all a part of life. I will still enjoy myself, my husband will be with me, and we will have twice as much fun for them as well. As much as I understand what she must be going through and how hard the times are for them right now, I can't help but be a little selfish. We were college roommates and each others maid of honors. She is my best friend, but right after college she moved to Florida and we see each other once a year for one day (other than our weddings). I live in New Jersey. This was to be the first time since collge that we would spend a whole week together (We graduated almost 5 years ago) and I am going to truly miss her on this vacation because I will know in the back of my mind that she was supposed to be there. I guess I can always look forward to the next time because I know there will be one. I just wish that I could be there for her right now.