So very sad for Gary. When Mike 1st started becoming really ill but before he was actually diagnosed with cancer, I started going to his dr appointments with him. After the cancer diagnosis, I even had our daughter go to some of the visits. Cancer doesn't just affect the patient, it affects the whole family. This disease should be tackeled as a family so I wish his wife would go with him to the dr. His next dr appoint she should just say,"honey I want to go with you".
When my mother was terminal with cancer that had spread to her pancreas she was in tremendous pain. I never really understood the thing about being so cautious as not to give too many meds too soon; try to keep it to a schedule. She was terminal. She was in pain. I sincerely hope that they can give Gary some relief from his pain.
Even though your friend's mobility may be affected by the surgery, it would be worth it to eliminate the pain. Watching someone suffering in pain is so difficult. I hope the surgery goes well & that it alleviates the pain.
